Another barrier to listening occurs when we allow our minds to wander. We're unable to concentrate on the person speaking or the issue being discussed. Perhaps its due to frequent daydreaming and visits to lalaland that have never been curbed. Or maybe it's simply due to lack of interest in the subject at hand—we're simply bored.

Whatever the case, blaming the speaker or topic for your inability to focus and listen is never acceptable. It's true that some are not as engaging or interesting as others but consider for a moment that listening to another human being is respecting and valuing the image of God. Respecting another person's interests and valuing their journey is always praiseworthy. Furthermore, occasionally its good to broaden your horizons by listening to subject matter that typically would never cross your path.

Sometimes when I show real interest in what others value they also value what I'm interested in. It's what I call winning the right to be heard. So rein in your mindlessness and pay attention to what is being said. Listening can be hard work. But the dividends in relational capital gained through the experience and the character you build in the process are both good reasons to listen well.

[Next Wednesday we'll look at how having a defensive reaction to what someone says can be a real barrier to listening.]