I have a five-part series I’ve shared with numerous groups called People Skills Transformational Encounter. I cover The Art of Listening and The Art of Encouragement before delivering three presentations on conflict resolution. The first of those final three sessions look at resolving one’s past—an essential task that equips one to be both a peacemaker and resolve future conflicts.

I will never forget a moment at age 19 while driving down the road in a friend’s pickup truck. I asked the Lord to reveal to me anything from my past that I should attempt restitution or make right in some other way. Instantly two things came to mind. Since I was living close to 2000 miles away from where I grew up, I pledged to take care of those two issues when I returned home the following summer.

Though difficult, by God’s grace I pushed through with each one. Having experienced a tremendous sense of freedom in each case, I decided to pray that prayer again, just in case God wished to reveal more. He did. Again I made a commitment and followed through.

Over the years, God has faithfully brought to mind different instances from my past that needed healing. I’ve made restitution for vandalism and theft and asked forgiveness for broken relationships. It’s been a humbling experience every time but worth it all for the freedom and clear conscience gained.

Years ago I came across this passage in the Old Testament: “But I will not drive them out in a single year, because the land would become desolate and the wild animals too numerous for you. Little by little I will drive them out before you, until you have increased enough to take possession of the land.” (Exodus 23:29-30)

My basic takeaway is simply this. If God had revealed everything to me at one time I would have been overwhelmed. Instead, he showed me little by little so I could handle each case thoroughly before moving on. It’s a journey. And I welcome you to pray the prayer. Resolve your past to gain a clear conscience.

“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” (Lamentations 3:22-23)